Aftermath of Tragedy- God Bless the USA !

Aftermath of Tragedy

God Bless the USA !

by Twinkle Wood-VanFleet

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Headlines read

“America under attack”

My body began to shiver,

The World Trade Center One was on fire

My heart began to pound,

Why, oh why..this cold malicious act.

Please God, help the People,

Another plane heading for Tower Two

Oh, I Prayed.. Lord catch Them..

They’re heading straight for You.

Tears streamed down my cheek..

Our People scattered around,

Praying for New York City

Thousands never to be found.

Let Our Country show No mercy

Terrorism is not the way…

An ultimate price shall be paid

Soon comes judgement day.

In the aftermath of tragedy

Hoping pain eases in the hearts

Of the Families left behind

If not today or tomorrow…

Then somewhere in time.

Yes, I’m still proud to be an American

Even evil couldn’t take that away

I’m as free as Our People they killed

God Bless, the USA!

© 2001-2015 Twinkle Wood-Vanfleet Golden Rainbow Poetry All rights reserved.

Unauthorized duplication is prohibited. Copyright Laws and Regulations of the United States http://www.copyright.gov/title17/

Published in both hard print and audio.

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Answered Prayer

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Dedicated to my son Kurtis Ozra VanFleet

by Twinkle VanFleet

March 31st

I LONGED FOR HIS PRESENCE- I DREAMED HE WAS HERE,

I COULD FEEL HIS SPIRIT- FOR I KNEW HE WAS NEAR.

I CRIED IN THE NIGHT- MY BODY ACHING AND OVERWHELMED,

THE MOST BEAUTIFUL FEELING- FOR HIS HOPE THAT I HELD.

I NEEDED HIS COMFORT AND ALL THE LOVE HE WOULD GIVE-

HE WOULD BE THE DIFFERENCE- IN THIS WORLD THAT WE LIVE.

RUMOR WAS I DIDNT DESERVE HIM, I NEEDED TO TAKE CARE OF WHAT I HAD-

NEVER WAS MY HEART SO HURT- BROKEN AND SO SAD.

I CLOSED MY EYES AND HEARD HIM- MY MOMMY, PLEASE DONT CRY-

I AM THE ONE YOU LONGED FOR, MY WINGS HAVE LEARNED TO FLY.

A VOICE SAID, HE’S ALWAYS LOVED YOU, SO YOU WILL BE THE ONE-

I GAVE YOU WHAT YOU ASK FOR, I BLESSED YOU WITH A SON!

©2001-2015 Twinkle Wood-VanFleet/Golden Rainbow Poetry/All rights reserved.

For viewing purposes only. May not be copied, reproduced or altered in any way. Has been published at

several poetry sites through out the years. Originally written 1997.

Copyright Laws and Regulations of the United States http://www.copyright.gov/title17/

(Kurtis was born during “The Cold Hard Run” refer to “Look At Us Now”)

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Happy Birthday my Son, I love you! And I know….

Mama Knows…  She always knows.

Don’t ever forget.

Overcoming the Stress Response

comtragcrpsa1The Sympathetic Nervous System is derived of 2 components. The Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) and the Para-Sympathetic Nervous System (PSNS) both of which makes up the Autonomic Nervous System. The Sympathetic Nervous System is also known as Fight, Flight or Freeze. Stress and the Brain can be a serious issue for many individuals. Related or unrelated to various diagnosis’. Over the years I have lisened to thousands of individuals with a multitude of diagnoses.

Most of which touch on the the Stress Response. The stress response is “The Sympathetic Nervous System”. The Sympathetic Nervous System is the Stress Response. It is Fight, Flight or Freeze.

Having Complex Regional Pain Syndrome Type 2/Causalgia, I’ve had to take pause for an extra peek. Was there something there in my life at the time to cause my body to take this abnormal path. Has the stress and idea of not being able to heal kept me in this abnormal pattern. For me and only me, I cannot dismiss it. I cannot seem to find anything solid, but our minds don’t always work that way conclusively.

I refuse to give up, yet I fall to my own victimization in that I, at times, give up. It doesn’t matter if it is for 5 minutes or for a day. I have the awareness to know that by giving in, am I somehow reconditioning that stress response. I think it is possible. I use many of the alternative techniques available to me on a regular basis. That is how I survive. I also know that I succumb to fears of the future. Fear is anxiety. Anxiety is fear. Fear and anxiety is stress.  Add stress to chronic pain and you, or I, will always have a vicious cycle to endure.

Rarely do I focus on the physical decline of my being, I am aware. If I did, I would continue to re trigger the same event each and every day. I don’t focus on the look, or what I see. I do have trouble with the fact I can’t get out on my own. I have been trying to clear the secondary issue of depression. Many of us believe we are reasonably well. That is what we represent. My family fell to a hard decline a few years ago and since then it has been non stop. Surreal in some ways. A living dream. My personality type is to fix. My family is everything. My husband, children, and my grandchild.

If I can’t fix it, love it, make it right then it is wrong to me.

I have been taught not to show pain behaviors and not to guard. This is almost nature to me. For years now. Seldom if at all.

Perhaps there are times, yet they would be minimal.

I am on my way to getting better! You won’t be able to until you get rid of everything heavy you ever carried. Why? Because chronic pain has a way of bringing it all back. Heavier than it ever was. You will keep everything inside you. All thoughts, misconceptions, hurts, perceived hurts. You will! You have to let it go. And once you do, you will find peace not only in yourself, but in your pain.

~Twinkle VanFleet

Overview of the Autonomic Nervous System

http://www.merckmanuals.com/home/brain_spinal_cord_and_nerve_disorders/autonomic_nervous_system_disorders/overview_of_the_autonomic_nervous_system.html

The sympathetic division of the autonomic nervous system maintains internal organ homeostasis and initiates the stress response.

https://www.boundless.com/physiology/textbooks/boundless-anatomy-and-physiology-textbook/autonomic-nervous-system-ans-14/physiology-of-ans-142/sympathetic-responses-750-9204/

Fight, Flight or Freeze: The Stress Response

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/07/31/fight-flight-or-freeze-the-stress-response/

What is the Stress Response?

What is the Stress Response

Stress Management

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20046037

Chronic Stress Puts Your Health At Risk

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/stress-management/in-depth/stress/art-20046037

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/index.shtml

Systemic Complications of Complex Regional Pain Syndrome

Click to access Systemic-Complications-of-CRPS.pdf

Power of Pain Foundation- ADF and Access to Care

 

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Power of Pain Foundation recognizes that Abuse Deterrent Formulations are only a step forward
toward drug diversion. We know this isn’t the final answer. It allows an option for patients to
continue to be treated with opioid analgesics and removes many of the barriers involved in non abuse
deterrent medication.

 

POPF Pain Community Needs Assessment Survey

We are not focusing on any one treatment option, we are improving upon the patient/provider
relationship.

The purpose of our survey was to determine who is having trouble getting access to quality care.
who is being dismissed, who is being cared for by a primary physician, who is being sent to pain
management and who is having difficulty receiving ongoing pain care.

We are aware of many individuals who are not receiving proper medication management or treatment
and others who had been receiving care that are now facing obstacles.

Our goal is continued access to care. Our goal is patient empowerment.

Recent Articles

INEFFECTIVE TREATMENT ASSOCIATED WITH THE CHRONIFICATION OF PAIN by Barby Ingle
http://www.lynnwebstermd.com/ineffective-treatment-associated-with-the-chronification-of-pain/

BARBY INGLE ON CHRONIC PAIN AND OPIOIDS by Barby Ingle
http://www.lynnwebstermd.com/guest-post-barby-ingle-on-chronic-pain-and-opioids/

The Unintended Side Effects of Fighting Prescription Drug Abuse by Twinkle VanFleet
http://www.californiaprogressreport.com/site/unintended-side-effects-fighting-prescription-drug-abuseTwinkleV_SB1258

 

 

 

 

 

 

Barby Ingle: Tamper-proof pain drugs deserve support

http://www.desertsun.com/story/opinion/contributors/2015/02/28/ingle-pain-medication-%20tech/24144627/
With the Power of Pain Foundation as a sponsor of the new bill AB 623 on Abuse Deterrent
Formulations, the above article  Op-Ed by our President has special significance being published 2/28/2015.
#RareDiseaseDay http://www.rarediseaseday.org/

Our President also wrote articles for for WA, NV, AZ, and CA.
She wrote letters to legislators in MD, MO, UT, CO, AZ.
BarbyIngle-FillYourPrescriptionOfHope
We are committed to you!

 

Power of Pain Foundation Advocacy Committee
Twinkle VanFleet, Board Member, Advocacy Chariwoman

Work Comp, Denials, Delays and Dangerous Outcomes

Just last evening I got back on the medication that should have been filled January 4th, 2015.  On January 9th, I received a modification approval through PRIUM quoting reasons for denial using the California MTUS.  Two of the medications were available for pick up on Monday January 19th. One was a modification and reduction of Duloxetine, the other an Anti-Seizure.  Both of these medications warn that patients should not abruptly stop them. Cymbalta/Duloxetine withdrawal was so bad that I couldn’t see straight, literally. I saw lights flashing before my eyes, instability, rapid heart rate, a rise and fall in blood pressure and I heard sounds in my ears, head? I felt as if I was dissociating from myself. Bouncing in and out of my entire being. I only take one actual pain medication. On the 4th when they all should have been filled. I was still okay there. On the 8th, I had a Lumbar Sympathetic Block that seemingly failed due to the Duloxetine withdrawal state I was already in. I was already off the Anti Seizure as well. I removed my patch on time 3 days later. I knew I was heading into another withdrawal. This medication was approved on the 9th also. It is a partial agonist and partial antagonist.  It was still not made available to me. None of them were. 2 of the medications will not be filled at all, anymore. At this time I am coming off another that helped me greatly over the years, but which I will no longer get.  In addition Lidoderm will no longer be approved. It has not been easy.  Last night my patch, the lowest dose of its type was finally put back on.

I know what Lidoderm was originally classified for, yet it seems a little odd to take away a patch that eases nerve pain in targeted areas. Especially when the indications for Shingles is post use and not during break out.

Cost, I am sure!

What is important to point out here is that if the insurance or adjuster has an idea that medication will not be filled for any reason notify the patient or provider before hand.  Give opportunity to properly reduce to avoid side effects. I could have seized! I may have and just don’t know it. Nausea, vomiting, dehydration from not being able to keep liquid or food in was also most unpleasant.  Edema, myoclonic jerks were in an uproar. I had respiratory depression and ended up with flu and cold like symptoms which still exist. I couldn’t lay down and I couldn’t use my Auto Servo Ventilator during the worse of it because of its unique ability to force me to breathe. I coughed uncontrollably. My chest is still heavy.

I do not mean to place myself in another category than other’s on Worker’s Compensation. However, my claim is closed with lifetime medical. My rating above 70 percent was issued in 2008. So how do you determine who is entitled to what and when? Or are none of us entitled at all? New claims, old claims, open claims? We seem to be at the mercy of someone who holds our lives in their hands. I seriously want to learn more! I would appreciate honest answers, but I don’t expect a single one.

We should not have to go through this because someone somewhere is sloppy in their own duties. So what do we do? What are all the patients who are being effected by similar issues suppose to do? Every time I’m denied for a procedure it’s overturned and approved by a medical professional. Why is all the money spent to deny and delay instead of treat in the first place? You speak of high cost in the Work Comp System, oh yes, I agree! While our awards are sitting in an investment account, paid out in bi weekly portions, you get the interest we never see. And then some of you show us your new multi-million dollar buildings and all we want is access to care.  If I had gone to the hospital it would have been initially assumed I was an addict drug seeking. I already know this because this is the position many of you have placed us in.  An immediate assumption, no presumption, no fact or basis for the pre judgement.

Discontinuation of Treatment with Cymbalta

Discontinuation symptoms have been systematically evaluated in patients taking Cymbalta. Following abrupt or tapered discontinuation in adult placebo-controlled clinical trials, the following symptoms occurred at 1% or greater and at a significantly higher rate in Cymbalta-treated patients compared to those discontinuing from placebo: dizziness, headache, nausea, diarrhea, paresthesia, irritability, vomiting, insomnia, anxiety, hyperhidrosis, and fatigue.

During marketing of other SSRIs and SNRIs (serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors), there have been spontaneous reports of adverse events occurring upon discontinuation of these drugs, particularly when abrupt, including the following: dysphoric mood, irritability, agitation, dizziness, sensory disturbances (e.g., paresthesias such as electric shock sensations), anxiety, confusion, headache, lethargy, emotional lability, insomnia, hypomania, tinnitus, and seizures. Although these events are generally self-limiting, some have been reported to be severe.

Patients should be monitored for these symptoms when discontinuing treatment with Cymbalta. A gradual reduction in the dose rather than abrupt cessation is recommended whenever possible. If intolerable symptoms occur following a decrease in the dose or upon discontinuation of treatment, then resuming the previously prescribed dose may be considered. Subsequently, the physician may continue decreasing the dose but at a more gradual rate [see Dosage and Administration (2.7)].  Indications and Usage for Cymbalta ~Drugs.com

What is also interesting is that while both my provider and I was told by my Pharmacist that my Rx’s were put into the inactive file and that there was nothing they could do, when the first 2 were picked up on the 19th, the info on the bottles are back dated to the 15th and 16th. That’s wrong! That is not when they were filled. I have kept the receipt/dated of when they were picked up.

I will not name the Pharmacy as I have always had a great relationship with them. So while I continue to withdrawal from one medication, and try to re stabilize from those that had been removed, modified, approved and denied, I can’t help but wonder when the solution is coming to fix a broken system that doesn’t only affect me but millions of injured workers through the States.

As the prescription drug epidemic continues to fuel, let me also mention that slam dunking people off medication has them consider alternatives they would have never considered before.

You make some people become the person they never were. Before you jump to conclusions I beat this! I am beating it! I did not turn to alcohol, I didn’t seek out pills, I did not do what you could have pushed me into.  Suicide increases more and more each day and will become the next epidemic. No one cares to see that part. No one cares to listen enough. Even those that reach out are left hopeless. This isn’t just about Work Comp it’s about access to care in the chronically ill intractable pain patient.  If treatment was offered early, progression of injuries, disease and pain could be controlled instead of becoming out of hand.  Some people with diagnosis’ like mine would even have the chance at remission! Wouldn’t that save billions of dollars?

So I have to wonder if anyone really wants to change anything at all.

We’re not victims, I play an active role in my own pain care. My physicians are just another tool in my tool box of modalities, spirituality and assistance to help me survive and have some semblance of life.

So what do we do, and how do we do it?

I’m all ears.

 

~Twinkle VanFleet,

Advocacy,  Power of Pain Foundation

 

 

 

Heading back to yesterday

So many of us get so lost in the loss of our lives before our diagnosis’ that we fail to realize we never did lose ourselves entirely. We only tucked it away.  For me, I have no formal college diploma’s, I never finished college the first time because I married as a teenager. I began college at 15 studying law and theater after I left my favorite high school. I went to 4. My favorite was the second in La Verne CA . I graduated from professional acting school when my daughter’s were little, but I left that career behind to advocate for end of life, specifically my dad. I had a small business Publishing  company when I was in my mid 20’s while still working full-time for someone else. I’ve been writing since I was 8, published many times in hard print compilations and anthologies. My piece for 911 (September 11, 2001) was published in audio along with others. It was both a hard print and audio special edition. I wrote for the Independent Opinion on various topics years ago. I wrote my book years ago as well. I’ve kept that and it’s title to myself. I had left it to my children to have published someday. It is uniquely written and different from most. Last year, I was encouraged to go forth with it. I am not sure yet. It’s more important for me to leave something behind.  That’s why I left it to my kids in the first place.

All of my education comes from amazing mentors, research, avid reading, documentaries, sources and resources of knowledge that has inspired and educated me. I crave knowledge.

I write poetry, poetic rap, spoken word, quotes, a few essays were politically driven, many health related. Now that I have re connected with one of my publishers from over a decade ago, I realize that I never lost all of me at all. I only set me aside. I set the best of me aside.

I had a publishing site established in 1997 where I helped assist other’s get published. I published those unknowns so that their work could be found by other publishers. I loved doing that. In much the same way I love doing what I do now in advocating. I serve! Included also was my own work. I lost that site in 2007-8 along with many of my pieces. I was so proud of it. It was entirely hand coded, no templates, no programs. Straight html and self-taught. In 2005, I started school for a Corporate Publishing degree. I had to take pause to have my Spinal Cord Stimulator implanted in 2006. I did return, but I have not received my degree. I did however complete my prerequisite courses which gave me a certificate in those classes. My RSD(S)CRPS site overlapped with my GRPC site for a few years. I had them both. Because much of my work has been published online, I’ve been able to retrieve some of what was lost. I’m still looking for the others. I also have in the garage a notebook of all original work that goes back to my childhood which I haven’t even taken a peek in probably 25 years or more. This blog is about to approach its 9th birthday. For a few years it was a set it and forget it with pages of information yet not many actual blog posts.

I’m heading back to my yesterday which brings me joy and have decided that I have more to proffer in what I was then than what I am doing now. I’m trying to keep both. I am not able to choose at this time. So for now I will re-establish my yesterday and move forward in both passions and purposes.

“Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted. one moment
Would you capture it or just let it slip?”~Eminem- Lose Yourself

I’m going to capture it!.  And with whatever controversy it brings me. I’m good with it. No one knows my back story, only glimpses of it.

As soon as I’m able, I’ll add my writing’s here. Just going to decide in what manner I’ll post them.  All at once (in the same post)  or individually.

I’m deeply philosophical, I tend to provoke thought. I am an empathetic and sensitive. I prefer my circles small due to this. I can’t see one side, or two sides, I often see 3 sides to issues and people. I don’t care to form many close relationships because of my ability to “see and feel” what is not mine to know. Unfortunately there are times I “see and feel” too much and have to step back a little. I am gifted to have an overwhelming capability in understanding. I can forgive easily. I try to help people let go of the most painful emotion of all, guilt.

I love to make people laugh even at the expense of myself.

Until next time,

I wish you all pain eased days and nights

Always be as well as you can be

I know you’re still in there somewhere, find you!

 

“I could just dance forever… and ever…
… And submit to every ounce of surging pain that wraps its arms around me” ©2007-2015 Twinkle VanFleet

 

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Stepping Up and Stepping Out with POPF (Power of Pain Foundation)

So many don’t realize what isolation is until they find worth in something or worth finds you. 14 years ago the injury, a right foot mid metatarsal separation changed my life.  In my story Emotional Seperation- Fire ‘N Flight Where Pain and Depression Collide by Twinkle (EKV) VanFleet you will find all the truth you need to and you will also find my story seemingly ends in 2006. My story never ended. 

As the years moved on, I learned to adapt. I wasn’t even on Facebook until 2009. I was however on Myspace where I met many RSD/CRPS leaders, organizations, shared posts, wrote posts to share. I have really never been one to hide my life. What you see is what you get as long as you are able to perceive it properly and fairly. The innocent looking, pretty, slim princess could so easily be the one selling the drugs.. and me? The pierced girl, who wears bracelets, anklets and just kicks it whether in leisure or professionally could be taken as the mobster.  I mentioned recently in a group post, the group that I founded over a decade ago that I am finally glad it’s me. That I am one to be judged, wrongly. For it might be me to make a difference in the world one day on the matter of prejudiced and profiling.  In a sense, I truly can’t wait!

I have done so much in the background over the years. The articles I had written, support given and offered, endless hours spent on so many that I let even my own family become second to all else.  I fell and I came back up. No one knew it. How could they? I didn’t tell anything.

Approximately a year or more ago, I posted a message that said “I need to find my happy” What I meant was that all my posts were bland, to the point, taken as serious. No online hints. No lol’s, no lmao’s, no ~laughs. Just the post.  Someone replied with I’m so happy you have. I was happy, too.

I started sharing posts of laughter, some not so accepted by a few. Some contained curse words, the graphic posts to me were funny and to so many others.. they laughed and laughed. Made their day! To a few they were found offensive, disgusting, wrong.

Suddenly where does that leave me?

It wasn’t until I became a member of the Power of Pain Foundation that I was able to have enough conviction and belief in myself to leave my home again.  Weight gain, swelling, vocabulary that in person is stuttered, lapse of memory, the inability to keep on my feet or even feel good about the life that had become me.

The Power of Pain Foundation showed me that I am so much more that the disabilities and inabilities that I sometimes put myself down for.

They have encouraged me to stay me! In all that I am and all that I might become.  They have accepted my diversities which so many of you will never, just never understand and they let me embrace it and move forward with all of it.

I get my work done and I fall short from time to time. What I have never had is someone putting me down, but instead encouraging me and thanking me for what I can do, not scolding me for what I am unable to do.

Simply put, work is work. Volunteer or not. Sometimes we all need a nudge just like any other job..  before you say but wait! It’s volunteer.. I can only imagine how many other volunteer positions I might have had that I would have been booted out from already. Why? Because I couldn’t get out of bed that day!

My journey with Power of Pain has afforded me the opportunity and want to get my butt out of bed or force my legs to go because it gave me incentive. We lose so much with CRPS/RSD. We need to know we still have some bit of worth. And you do! We all do. It doesn’t matter how small. It doesn’t even matter if you think there’s nothing left.. you have worth, you always will. Please remember that!

I’ve been POPF’s California Ambassador for a couple of years now. I have organized and attended one major event. I have done guest appearances on the Living with HOPE Radio Show with Host Trudy Thomas, I have Co Hosted a Bit, my grandson was featured in an article with Barby Ingle, I wrote the Forward for Barby Ingle Taylor and Ken Taylor”s book Real Love and Good Sex for Pain Patients and Their Partners 

I can’t even remember what else I might have done or achieved.

I thought that I wasn’t doing enough for POPF that I had let them down. These were my thoughts. I thought, my lack of mobility was holding me back from being able to interact with the local community and at large, the entire California Community. I thought that my immediate family issues were setting me aside because I was taking care of them. It wasn’t so.

And then..

I was honored with the promotion to Executive Board Member.

My goal now is to continue on building my POPF California Team. Throughout all of California.

I continue to search at random (with a few helpful hints) for the Power of Pain Foundation’s Patient Fundraiser Program for Youth, each month we choose 4 patients. From neuropathy, nerve diseases and disorders, RSD/CRPS, cancer treatment, medication and devices to other that will ease the life of a youth between 0 and 20.

And we divide $200 by 4. Power of Pain Foundation adds $50 to each chosen youth’s fundraiser account.

If you know anyone who fits our program specifications please contact me.

If you are in California and if you would like to be considered to represent POPF California, in any way, please contact me.  Please understand I cannot promise anyone a representative position.  I would however be most interested in speaking to you from any area of California of which you live.

Twinkle VanFleet, Twinkle.CA@powerofpain.org

May I add that POPF also offered me something else…

In my 20’s,  I was in the running to gather signatures for WSAC City Council

Accidentally in a sense..  Barby Ingle gave me back something, I lost so long ago.

Lets just say.. I’m on it now. And this time,  Que Sera, Sera

Continuing to step up and step out..

and about with POPF.

 

~Twinkle V.

 

Nobody Said It Was Easy..

Sometimes people only see what they want to see, hear what they want to hear, but do they really “hear” , “see” it”? It’s all perception! We live in a world of perception and deception especially online.  The typed word is “perceived as “tone of type”. People take from it what they will. Imagination goes with it, fantasy, an idea of who or what you are. Tone of Type means how the other person takes your post, how they imagine it as if it came from your lips. It may not be what it is intended to be though after all there really is no tone, there is no voice, there is no body language.. it’s all the typed word. No seen or heard emotion. Nothing to actually base the tone on. I’ve shared so much through Social Media over the years, but I assure you, even with those who I thought were “friends”, I’ve never shared everything.

Since December of 2012 my life, our lives  have changed drastically, but let me be fair in saying that just because I haven’t shared like I used to that it hasn’t continued.

(I know some of you know)

Due to betrayal, I haven’t revealed what I might have. I’ve shared pieces and parts. At the end of 2013 I learned a valuable lesson. One that carries with me. I already had reservations and a trust issues.. that person only reminded me that barriers and walls are meant to be kept up.

My husband had already had 2 heart attacks, he had 2 stents in his heart since he was 37 when the first occurred. The second occurred in 2011 if my memory is serving me correctly. Not many months after that our son, who was a freshman at the time sustained several brain injuries that still existIMG_0263 today, so while I praise all of his efforts and good deeds online, we are still working to relieve him of symptoms, like breathing, smelling and other issues.  I will not be ashamed to say that he was diagnosed with ADHD and was on Adderall for it for some time. By choice, partly his choice, we decided to go off the Adderall over a year ago and let his body take it’s course. He’s strong!  He’s young! My Lil ‘ OZ! My husband had a quad bypass 17 months ago and is still dealing with Diabetes, Neuropathy, and the aftermath. He takes 11 medications upon waking, 4 in the afternoon, 11 at bedtime. I could care less about me anymore, even though it’s hard. Yep, hard! He took care of the me, I couldn’t keep up on so much, now I have to pull for all of it and I …

Will!

ErikandRikki

 

 

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Some people think because I have hope in my heart, once every 3 months or so that I’m able to go out that I think my shit don’t stink, that I’m better than someone else…

I’m not! Nor would I ever think it. Seriously? ! I’ll be the play’a in my own game!

A pretty outfit, a little make-up, one leg leaning to the hard left while the other holds it up, wheelchair in the van, the stick out of view, but no one knows..

Invisible diseases are even invisible among the very people they should be acknowledged from.

Even those in remission are looked down upon, I mean you can’t have a bad day, you’re in remission, right? Wrong! Remission only means an absence of symptoms for a time being it doesn’t mean that no symptoms will present.

A time being can be minutes, hours, days, weeks..  there is no absolute!

Those people still hurt too, still feel fatigue and get sore, wear down more quickly than someone without an illness.

I’m not in remission! I just understand those who are.

Now have a CRPS patient taking care of another ill disabled person… add struggles, surgeries, life, precious children, the grand baby. This has been my life. As my son approaches another surgery next week…

When you think you’ve had enough and you can’t go on….  Go On!

Don’t ask me how I do it..

Auto pilot!

Don’t ask me how I feed the dogs, the cat, love my children, my grandson, my family, however distant…

Or how I take care of my grandson…

Don’t ask me about me..

Don’t even ask me how I lift my eyes..

Just know that I do..

~ #TVa

#StrongerThanPain

(But he leaned in and whispered it might be worth it)

 

 

I originally wrote this weeks ago and used the same title recently on FB to show how proud I am of my (our) grandson De’Mantai Xayvier Howard who made 8 consecutive honor rolls and graduated at the top of his second grade class (and the entire school) . … (this post was written before that and left in drafts)

Fight for Tomorrow

RSDAdvisoryFightorFlightjAlways have faith that a better tomorrow will come. We have to or we won’t survive. The life of chronic pain becomes a family disease. In the last few months we have lost over a dozen people in the CRPS/RSD community. At least half to suicide. Most people do not premeditate their suicide. Many do experience suicidal ideations. It has been noted by professionals that “wanting to die or commit suicide” and suicidal ideations are not the same”. If they were more of us would be evaluated and helped before we get to the point of knowing our pain is never going to managed and into the sudden taking of our own lives. When it happens it is often spontaneous. There will have been signals and signs misread. There is always a cause and there will always be an affect. So many are not afforded proper medical care to reduce pain levels. Opioid medications, such as Hydrocodone,  continue to be well versed as a gate way drug to harder and heavier medications such as Oxycodone. It has been said a like a broken record over the past decades that Marijuana and narcotic use causes a person to become high risk for Heroin use. I do not believe this to be true. I do believe it’s possible in some personalities. Addictive personalities perhaps, but this does not include our entire population. I am offended for honest chronic pain patients that need pain care who have been dismissed as drug seekers. I am offended by good providers whose practices have been raided for prescribing Opioid medications.

It’s not the Opioid itself that is the epidemic in our society, it is the person who does not take it exactly as prescribed which can lead to abuse and misuse. Re evaluate the patient for possible addiction or consider another pain management plan of action. Either way they need help!

If pain patients aren’t taken care of and the pain cannot be controlled..

The number of deaths continue to rise. The epidemic will be chronic pain related suicides.

Your autopsy report will probably read..  as a result of depression, misus, abuse or other. There will be nothing about really happened. There will be nothing about the fact you couldn’t get pain relief and your last, very last resort was taking your own life.

DEA.. You don’t know pain until you’ve contemplated.

Speak up and speak out!

Let there always be a tomorrow. Fight for your tomorrow!

WEGO Health Activist Awards 2013

I am honored to have been nominated for Best In Show- Community or Forum in this years Third Annual WEGO Health Activist Awards.

My WEGO Health Activist Nominee Profile and Endorsement Page

There are 4 days left to nominate your favorite Health Activist in a variety of categories. Endorsements have begun for those already nominated. Even if you have already been nominated in a category anyone can still be nominated in another.

Think of people who inspire you! People who have not been nominated at all.

You can endorse as many people as you like.

Last year I was nominated for Best Kept Secret and just knowing someone recognized my efforts was enough for me. I shared a first and only post that I was nominated and nothing more. This year, I’m here writing about it. Again I am appreciative of the person who nominated me. Some of us remain in the background in what we do and that is where we prefer it. And sometimes we have to take a moment to consider it’s okay to accept that pat on the back, that thank you for the efforts, care and concern given without ever expecting something in return. It’s those few thank you’s that make all the difference in the world and keep you doing what you do despite the hardships, pain, and emotions that come with doing it.

Thank you, Barby Ingle!

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WEGO Health provides countless chances for you to connect with others who can relate to what you do, share your perspective or experiences, and spread the word about issues that are important to you.

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