I don’t look sick, sound sick or act sick does that mean I’m in remission?

The question was asked this week in my Support Group-

What do you consider “remission“? 100% back to normal or being able to manage your pain around 2-3 (on the McGill pain scale)…Just curious.

The question was asked because a good friend of mine has a radio show and people are always asking her if she’s in remission because she sounds happy on the air. She often is. Her symptoms aren’t as nearly as bad as they once were but she continues to have issues all the same.

She’s not in remission but has found a way to cope. Namely it is her radio show that has given her back her life. The interviews, research, interaction and all that goes with it has given her purpose and reason to go on. The radio show is her medication. She is wrapped up in so much information that she learns by personally speaking to doctors, other health care personal, authors, herbalists, social workers, therapists and so many more that she is better able to cope with her pain at the time due to the Distraction!

It has nothing to do with remission.

Which begs the question— Just because we don’t look sick, sound sick or act sick does this mean we’re in remission? Answer? Not at all!

So many people have preconceived notions of what sick should be and often times those who make judgements however subtle are the same who become offended if another questioned them at all.

We shouldn’t have to put on a sad face, drag our leg, clench our fist, limp or show pain behaviors just for someone else to believe we’re in pain.

I am not sure h0w anyone could presume or assume one must be in remission if they are able to cope with their pain or because they do not show it.

The same could be said for me. To many it’s seems as though I am active. I have an online support group, I’m a chronic pain advocate, I’ve had an RSD/CRPS website since 2005, I’ve appeared on the radio show I mentioned above both as guest speaker and co host, I’m the California Ambassador for the Power of Pain Foundation, I represented the Power of Pain Foundation at the NAF (Neuropathy Action Foundation) with Barby Ingle earlier this year, I did the same at the Convoy of Hope in September, I worked as Leader for another Support Group for 3 years and so forth, I have this blog and I work hard to promote RSD/CRPS awareness, promote others and support their efforts to do the same.

All the while being in pain each and every day. Many days I cannot even get up. So many days and hours a week wasted because I can’t pull myself out of bed or wake enough to be coherent.

People don’t see this.

Offline I’m barely out in the public. My most often trips are to pain management once a month or to other doctor appointments. Some people assume because I have these titles or because I try so hard I’m better off than they are. Or that my pain isn’t half as bad. If only they knew!

Sadly, pain seems to be a competition. You must be better of than me, or I hurt more than you. If you can do that you must not be in that much pain, you’re smiling today, you must not hurt, you went on a trip? You must be in remission!

I went to the lake this summer with my husband, daughter, grandson, and close family friends whom I call daughters, would this mean I must not hurt or that I must be in remission?

Naww, all it meant was that I was invited and wanted to spend a day with my family. No one saw that I spent the day laying on a blanket. I couldn’t even enjoy the water because it was too cold and my legs wouldn’t carry me back and forth to test it out again.

Another good friend of mine, best selling author, executive director, who travels several times a year advocating, spreading awareness, speaking on behalf of RSD/CRPS also has received negative comments. And while she has been in remission due to in patient Ketamine treatments, what many don’t know is that during these trips and appearances (yes I do mean “during”) or immediately after, she has to check herself into the hospital for a Ketamine booster in order to go on.

No one likes to be judged or ridiculed..

But remember…

Remission is Possible – (-Barby Ingle, Remission Possible)

RSD itself is forever.



A Review with Photos of Convoy of Hope Sept 15, 2012

Having represented the Power of Pain Foundation as California Ambassador at the Convoy of Hope held at Cal Expo September 15th, 2012 in Sacramento California I’d like to thank the Power of Pain Foundation (POPF), Barby Ingle, Ken Taylor, POPF Board of Directors, Trudy Thomas, Chris Greulich, Convoy of Hope, Susan Gosselin, Jackie Jurek Miss Folsom Cali USA, Kurtis VanFleet POPF Jr. Ambassador and Volunteers of the day Erik, Kharisma and Erykah VanFleet for all their hard work and commitment.

I was and still am thrilled to have been able to promote awareness, distribute information, and answer questions related to Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy Syndrome, Complex Regional Pain Syndrome/Causalgia and other neuropathic conditions. I also did a balloon release in the name of the Power of Pain Foundation, RSD/CRPS/Causalgia/Neuro Inflammatory Disease, Cure and Hope!

Cure is barely heard on the video as someone was hugging me at the time, but all other words are heard clearly even though I stuttered some. I’m putting together a slide show video of the event and hope to have it ready this month. It will consist of more photos an information of the event not just of the Power of Pain Foundation but of the entire day. All photos were taken by POPF Jr. Ambassador Kurtis VanFleet. A video of the balloon release will also be uploaded soon.

It was such a wonderful day, so many people were given free groceries, clothing, shoes, vision, dental and medical screenings, hair cuts, portraits, breakfast, lunch and so much more. This years turn out of a bit over 5,000 attendees was much lower than the previous years. The economy hurt this event from being even greater. Not enough donations to the Convoy of Hope, people couldn’t afford gas or public transportation to get there. People come from areas outside of Sacramento and weren’t able to this year.

People were camped out the night before the event to get in early, so gates were opened early, but also closed an hour early to accommodate for timing.

Total Guest Attendance- 5,832

Total Family Portraits- 955

Total Guests Prayed with- 4,698

Total Haircuts- 1,000

Total Women Served- (NBCF Tent)- 678

Total Shoes- 800+

Total Participating Organizations- 30

Total Volunteers- 1,763

1,400 Guests Served in the Clothing Tent

95 Dental Exams

50 Vision Exams

300 Received $500 Gift Certificates for follow-Up Vision Care

24 Pregnancy Exams

400 Served in the Job Tent

All these services were Free!

In addition thousands of pounds of food, water, and juice was distributed.

Medical, dental and vision supplies are costly.

Power of Pain foundation Table at Convoy of Hope

Jackie Jurek Miss Folsom Cali USA and Power and Pain CA Ambassador Twinkle VanFleet

Yesterday we received a Thank You Card from the Convoy of Hope. While the card was sent to me it very much belongs to the Power of Pain Foundation as a whole.

It is a shame that our economy is in such bad shape that even a good thing, an all free collaborative event was cut in half by those who were able to attend when we know the 1000’s who couldn’t be there needed the free groceries, medical exams and freebies that were offered and given away.

I pray for all those faces I seen. Those I spoke to and those I didn’t.

Let us all pray… for one another..

and let us TURN PAIN TO POWER… (powerofpain.org)

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